March 17 was supposed to be my parents’ 28th wedding anniversary. However, they didn’t even make it to the 24th. In my opinion, it was over way back from the 20th or even earlier.
In a time when fewer and fewer married couples celebrate their silver (25th) wedding anniversary, what are the chances of young married couples?
I’ve been married for more than four years now and although my hubby is no alcoholic or gambler or adulterer (as far as i know), he’s far from perfect (of course not perfect-perfect, duh, but i-have-no-complains-perfect). Last week, I asked him to drop by the supermarket after work for some grocery shopping (normally, grocery shopping is my job but since we only have a few items needed on the list, i let him do it). Among the items in the list I texted to him was my bath soap which I have been using everyday of the four years we’ve been married. And what do you know, he buys a totally different variant of the-thankfully-same brand.
It doesn’t seem like a big deal, true, but are we really supposed to accept that men do not pay attention to the little things that are actually big parts of our lives? (I mean come on, we have been using the same bathroom for more than four years and he still wouldn’t know?)
If you have small complaints, when would they be big enough to be merited as valid? When would your issues be serious enough to be dealt with? Are lack of quality time, erratic temperament, lost of romance too petty to be paid attention to like adultery or domestic violence? How come more and more marriages end not because one has had an affair but because they have grown so much apart it’s irreparable?
Still, there are those that succeed. I think, no matter what they did to keep the flame burning, it’s still mostly due to the desire to continue to be a partner to their better half. Marriage is a partnership, after all. And when one decides to go solo whether admittedly or not, then it is most likely that no one’s eating cake at their silver anniversary party.
- Tying the knot on longevity – advice from couples (sfgate.com)
- Sinéad O’Connor Ends Marriage 18 Days After Tying the Knot (eonline.com)